Friday, January 2, 2009
I realized that I've a pretty pathetic social life. As compare to the people around me, I've the least friends. I realized even I am with the closest people(blood related kins) I aren't that popular and often isn't mention in the group.
Unlike me, my sisters and brother are much, much more popular that I am. Let me talk about my brother first. He is one of the most welcomed person among his friends and cousins. He has a pretty active social life. Everyone loves to be with him!
Once my brother told me one night, "
Socializing with different age group of people, you need to standardize the way you talk to them." What he meant was: Different people has different characters. They can be as childish as kids. You've to pretend yourself to become one of the kids so that you can win their attention to you. Yeah, we've a lot of cousins that fall between the kiddy range of aged 0 to 9.He knew how to be a good entertainer. He doesn't vent his anger on them during his bad mood and show his attitude even to the most mischievious imp. Those tots love to be with him and missed him when he isn't around. Unlike me, I often throw my temper on kids and that explains clearly why kids are so distant from me.He is also one of the favourite person when he is with people around his age group or people slightly older than him too. He has a favourable figure and appearance. That's not the main factor that makes him popular. What's more admirable are the life skills he puts into his social life. He manages to maintain a 11 years old friendship with some of his good friends. Unlike me, I don't have a friend that lasted me for more than a year. O.o He just knows when to adjust his own maturity to different age group he is socializing with. People says smart goody bookworms, intelligent people attracts most friends. My brother proves them worng! He isn't a bookish person yet he has so many friends. (:My sister is another most popular person in her social life. She has never failed to spark off witty and humourous topics while she was with her friends and cousins. Everyone loves to be with her. There was once she didn't turn up to play cards with us, her fellow "fans" started to grumble and pulled her into the game. (: Unlike me, I wasn't invited to the game unless I took the initiative to join them. Wow, what a huge contrast! ;PI finally understand why.
The problem doesn't matter with one's appearances. Many of us doesn't have great looks. That doesn't stopped them from being gregarious. It is the high self-confident and courage that took them into becoming a famous person. Some people find no problem in socializing while some people are coy and often took no courage to talk to people. These people are considered passive. And yeah, I fall on the passive category. And I've decided to walk out of that passive road.
Yes, I have did a lot of bad things in the past. I've said bad things about people. I am too childish and with those childish actions and weird stuffs. It could be that I am shy, stubborn, my past sins, laziness, selfishness, arrogant, vain, proud, self-centred, emotional, no physical appearances, my wierd actions, too insensitive, low self esteem and low self-confident.
How many times have I ever talked to them?
How many common interests do I have with them?
Quit grumbling! It's time to make changes in my life!
My new resolution 1n 2009 will be:
To be a better person!
- Quit being lazy and to be more active in my social life
- Pick up a new interest - tennis.
- Good grades
- Be more generous.
- More hygiene person
- Less argumentive
- More filial
- Quit being a foul mouth
- Learn self-improvement techniques.
- brush up on my communication skills
- build up self-confident
- be more sociable
- Being more sensitive towards other people feelings.
- Good mannerism (:
Let's hope these 14 points come true in me(:
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